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Stronger Together #37: A Stronger Knot – Strengthening Your Marriage with Aaron Bunker

How can a marriage come out on stronger on the other side of difficult season? Why is it important to set up “postive values” for a family, rather than just talk about what you don’t want to do/be? How can you strengthen your marriage through building up your own walk with Christ? Aaron Bunker is a therapist, author and podcaster who helps us take on these questions during this episode of Stronger Together.  Stronger Together is a show about growing in marriage, parenting, relationships and community, and airs each week on Shine.FM.

Stronger Together #37: A Stronger Knot–Strengthening Your Marriage with Aaron Bunker

How can a marriage come out on stronger on the other side of difficult season? Why is it important to set up “positive values” for a family, rather than just talk about what you don’t want to do/be? How can you strengthen your marriage through building up your own walk with Christ? Aaron Bunker is a therapist, author and podcaster who helps us take on these questions during this episode of Stronger Together.  Stronger Together is a show about growing in marriage, parenting, relationships and community, and airs each week on Shine.FM.

Brant and Sherri’s Deal Breaker Question

Deal Breaker Question for the ladies: Let’s say you’re single and a FANTASTIC guy wants to marry you. He’s incredibly attractive. Smart, handsome, a provider and protector. Spiritually mature kinda guy. Loves kids and “gets” you. ONE little quirk: He wears big floppy clown shoes. Yes, they squeak when he walks. He will them for the rest of his life. That’s just how he rolls. That’s his only quirk. Otherwise, he’s AWESOME. Do you marry him?

Relationship Preparation

Our three-year-old and our eight year-old boys are preparing for something a little unique and special for them.

 

A very special honor—they are going to be Ring Bearers together, which they have never done. We’re in the process of getting them measurements for their little tuxes, and the parents are really prepared. We’re trying to coach them down that isle.

 

That reminds you of all of the preparation that goes into that day, that wedding ceremony. I can’t help but think sometimes are we investing as much into the relationship at the same time.

 

Sometimes that gets over looked, and that’s really the most valuable piece.

 

Friend, think about that in your own relationship. What are you doing to prepare, no matter your age or stage, for the days ahead?

If you have a comment or question for Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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Good News: Bride Marries Days After Escaping Fire by Jumping from 3rd Story Window

A Colorado woman is just thankful she could walk down the aisle after she escaped a raging fire less than a week before her wedding by jumping from a third-story window. Lenise Ruff, 23, was married Saturday in Castle Rock, Colo., even after she suffered burns on her face and hands from the fire and her maid of honor broke two vertebrae in the fall. Ruff and her roommate, also her maid of honor, Marilyn Kruc, had been trapped by a fire in their Centennial, Colo., apartment building on Monday. Without other options, Ruff and Kruc had to jump from their third-floor apartment rather than risk remaining near the smoke and flames.  In spite of the injuries, Ruff decided to go ahead with the wedding, even though she wasn’t sure whether Kruc would be able to attend. The day before the wedding Ruff talked to Kruc, who insisted she would be able to attend the ceremony no matter what. Click here for more on this wedding that beat the odds!

Clarification Can Go a Long Way

Shine.FM this is Dr. Les Parrott, and I’m Dr. Leslie Parrott, your Shine.FM relationship experts.

We had an engagement in Boston this week and we’re waiting at Logan Airport for the taxicab and I told the guy I need a taxicab that takes a credit card.

That’s right.

So he went down the line yelling that out in that great Boston accent.

“Card, card need somebody with a card.”

Yeah and I’m not from Boston so I said what is he talking about.

I said it’s as plane as day to me, I grew up there.

That’s when we need to clarify content it’s just another example of how valuable that is.

Especially in marriage.

It is so easy for me to jump to conclusions and I got to check in with you.

Yeah and so when you can’t quite understand what your spouse is saying, friend think about that, just a little bit of clarification can go a long way.

 

If you have a comment or question for Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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The Control Freak

You know, Gerry Spence, world famous attorney said something very interesting in an interview about his marriage on day.

 

He said, “The day I finally realized I didn’t need to control my wife and if I did I would destroy our marriage was the day our marriage began.”

 

Isn’t that an amazing insight?

 

It is a struggle for all of us just to release control of the person we love.

 

Well you know I wrote a book some years ago called The Control Freak.

 

Yes you did.

 

I call it your autobiography.

 

I know you do.

 

I like control, and we both do.

 

Everybody is somebody’s control freak some of the time.

 

But when we give up some of that control in our own marriage that’s the day our marriage can really begin.

 

 

If you have a comment or question for Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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A Fresh Perspective

Well, there are some artists that sell their work on the street, but we saw an artist that actually puts his art on the street, literally.

Yeah, these chalk drawings he creates are mind boggling because they create on optical allusion that just tricks you.

It’s from the perspective you’re looking at it because on the one side it might look like there is a deep whole in the street or a mountain of money or something you literally think is right there, until you see it from a different perspective and you go, “Oh, it’s just flat on the sidewalk.”

Your mind can hardly process it, but that’s what it’s like when you get a fresh perspective on something.

The same is true in our relationships getting a fresh perspective see things from a whole new angle.

If you have a comment or question for Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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Celebrate The Milestones

Well, you had kind of an interesting speaking engagement this week, didn’t you? Yeah, I had the chance to talk about marriage and relationships at a retirement community. Yeah, not your typical audience for this content. No, everyone there was at least two decades into retirement and they had such a great sense of humor. In fact, someone came up to me afterwards and said, “We are celebrating our 90th anniversary.” My jaw just dropped. Then she said, “90 months.” Well, there’s a lesson there, isn’t there? I think so. Even celebrating the months along the way is not a bad message for any of us. Friend, think about that in your own marriage. Celebrate the milestones, even if they are little ones.

If you have a comment or question for the New Shine.FM Relationship Experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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