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Hope-Central Valentine’s Day Love Tour

HopeCentralValentinesTour

Hope-Central, the performing arts epicenter for students, has gathered students from the Lansing area to serenade senior citizens on Valentine’s Day for the Hope-Central Love Tour.

Students will be touring senior facilities singing and handing out teddy bears and valentine’s cards to the residence in hope of making this Valentine’s Day a special one for them.

Tour locations:

Hope-Central is collecting medium to large size teddy bears at the following locations:

Please consider donating a teddy bear today to make a difference this Valentine’s Day!

Celebrities and Their Effect on Kids

Two well-known celebrities have gone public about their decision to remain sexually pure until marriage.

 

Bethany Hamilton, the subject of the movie Soul Surfer, says “Growing up I was blessed to have parents that stayed together, and to have that husband and wife image.  I wanted an awesome husband that would love and support me until I die.

 

Bethany says “I also wanted to honor God with the way that I approached [marriage]. I definitely was patient and I didn’t mess around.” In fact Bethany says her husband is the only guy I’ve ever kissed.”  By the way, Bethany has a new book out that talks about some of those issues.  It’s called Body & Soul: A Girl’s Guide to a Fit, Fun and Fabulous Life: 

And a well-known male TV star is talking  about his decision to remain abstinent until marriage. 

 

Duck Dynasty’s Jase Robertson says  “I’m proud [that I was a virgin when I got married]. That was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my entire life.

 

In an interview with Fox News, Jase said “What I did was when I started dating girls I would quickly tell them on the first date as soon as they got in the car. I’d say, ‘Look I will not treat you inappropriately at any point in our relationship.’

 

According to Jase, when he said that, a couple of girls actually got out of the car! But he says, “My wife, [Missy], she really loved the idea that she felt secure with me, like I had a direction I was taking.”

 

By the way, if you’re a parent with teens or pre-teens at home, an excellent book on this topic is called “Pure Excitement: A Godly Look at Sex, Love and Dating.”

 

If you have younger kids, I’d recommend the series “God’s Design for Sex” by Stan and Brenna Jones.  That series features a different booklet for each stage of development, starting with 0-3 year-olds and going all the way up to the teen years.

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Good News: Daughter Stuns Mom with the Best Reaction to the Worst Present

Imagine the reaction on your child’s face if you decided to play a cruel birthday joke on her. Let’s say you decided that instead of giving your little girl the one thing you knew she really wanted, you decided to stuff the bag with a giant pair of men’s underwear and then record her dejected reaction. Then imagine the look on your own face if your daughter stunned you by reacting in the best way possible, lavishing thanks and praise on you for such an awesome gift. Well, imagine no longer. Thanks to mother Jessie Eaton, we have such a scenario. Click here to see what the littler girl had to say about her gift!

Are Kids With ADHD More Likely to Use Drugs?

If your kid has ADHD, is he more likely to use drugs as a teen or young adult?  Yes—and no.

CBS News is reporting on a new study conducted by Boston Children’s Hospital that found that children suffering with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder are more than twice as likely to try and abuse drugs

However, if kids are treated properly—including with prescription medications, they may actually be LESS likely to use drugs when they get older.

Dr. Sharon Levy at Boston’s Children’s says “one of the main points [of the research] is that treating ADHD both with behavioral techniques and medications seems to lower the risk of substance abuse,”

Dr. Levy did caution that stimulant medications such as Adderall and Ritalin can sometimes be misused. The researchers found that almost 1 out of 4 school-aged children are approached to sell, buy or trade their ADHD medications

Dr. Michael Duchowny at Miami Children’s Hospital recommends that children with ADHD should be counseled about the risk of substance abuse.

Although the association between ADHD and the risk of substance abuse is known, the reasons for the increased risk aren’t,

It’s possible that the same biology that causes ADHD also puts some children at a higher risk for substance abuse, he added. Other social factors may also contribute to increased risk.

For example, kids with ADHD are more likely to struggle in school and turn to drugs or alcohol to escape anxiety about their difficulties.

For more information on ADHD, its diagnosis, and proper treatment, go to chadd.org.

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Emotional Son

Dear Dr. Bill,

 

We have a very emotional 8-year-old boy.  He often cries about little things and gets upset at my husband and me constantly.  He has a 2-year-old sister, and I wonder if their age gap has caused some kind of strain for him.  What do you suggest?

 

–Joy

 

Dear Joy,

 

Every child is wired differently from the start—each with his own unique personality and disposition.  Some are more laid-back, some are more high-strung.

As parents, one of our jobs is to help our kids capitalize on their strengths and overcome their weaknesses.

 

Without directly observing your family, I can only speculate about what’s going on, but could it be that you and your husband are unintentionally reinforcing your son when he cries and throws tantrums?

 

Many parents believe the most loving thing to do is give in to their child’s demands and emotional outbursts—they want their child to like them and they don’t want to do anything to cause them to be unhappy.

 

Unfortunately this sets up a negative pattern that will cause a child to struggle in his relationships with classmates and teachers—and later with dating partners and employers.

 

It sounds like things have gotten worse since your daughter was born.  My guess is that your son has been used to getting his way and being the center of attention for years, and he doesn’t like sharing mom and dad with this little “intruder.”

 

If this description rings true, you and your husband will need to start setting firm limits with your son and implementing consequences for negative behavior.  You’ll also need to teach him more appropriate ways of responding when he is upset, frustrated or angry.

 

For some great guidance on this, check out the book “Boundaries with Kids” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Good News: Action Figures for Boys Highlighting Brains Over Brawn

Much has been said lately about the sexist messaging of toys geared for girls. But the ones marketed to boys leave something to be desired, too — at least according to Laura Hale, a California mother of four who’s using her entrepreneurial skills to launch a series of action figures that stresses kindness and creativity over brute force. Mac Mason, the introductory Generation Grit character, is an adventurous 14-year-old boy from 1943 who loves secret codes, camping, and baseball. He comes with accessories including a trunk, a bedroll and a radio — as well as a book, “The Adventures of Mac Mason,” with stories of friendship and mystery, meant to inspire play for kids ages 8 to 12. Click here to read more about this mom’s fight for more empowering male characters!

Good News: Boy Saves Dogs As His Birthday Wish

 

For most children, a birthday is the time to request a coveted gadget or tear open an eagerly awaited toy, but for his ninth birthday, Ethan Katz told his parents he wanted to save dogs.   Ethan and his father, Andy, got to work, designing T-shirts for sale, and sold them online, where he explained his mission: “My name is Ethan Katz and I am eight years old. I love dogs. I have two dogs that are very sweet. My birthday is on May 29th. This year for my birthday I want to raise money for my favorite rescue organization – City Dogs Rescue. We rescued my dog Brooklyn from City Dogs in November. I made this shirt to sell for City Dogs,” he wrote.  Ethan’s effort raised nearly $3,000, which was donated to City Dogs Rescue, a Washington, D.C., nonprofit that saves dogs from kill shelters and finds them homes. Ethan’s donation was enough to save 10 dogs from euthanasia.  Click here to learn more!

 

Help—My 6-Year-Old is a Habitual Liar—What Can I Do?

Dear Dr. Bill,

 

Ever since my second daughter could walk and talk, she has been sneaky and a little deceitful.  She’s now almost 6-years-old and is very smart and sweet, but her tendency to lie continues to baffle me. I’ve tried reading children’s books to her about telling the truth, and reviewing Bible verses that back up what I’ve been teaching her — but the problem persists. What should I do?

 

–Nicole

 

Dear Nicole,

 

Young children tend to respond more effectively to actions, rather than words. Although explaining the importance of truth and sharing Bible verses with your daughter are important, you’ll find that firm, decisive actions are the best teacher.

 

My guess is she has found that lying works for her—at least some of the time. She’s learned that telling a fib helps her to avoid or at least delay punishment. So you need to make the consequences for lying more severe than for other types of misbehavior.

 

For example, if she deliberately breaks one of her sister’s toys, she will receive a consequence, but if she LIES about it, her punishment will be considerably more painful.

 

Clearly explain this to her, so she knows in advance that she’s much better off telling the truth and admitting to an infraction, even if she does experience a negative consequence for her misbehavior.

 

In addition to consistent, powerful consequences for lying, you should also begin praising her when she tells the truth.

 

Many parents find it helpful to use a sticker chart or token system to reinforce positive behavior and discourage negative behavior.

 

You can learn how to set up such a system in Dr. James Dobson’s book “The New Dare to Discipline.”

 

Thanks for writing Nicole!

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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