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Hope-Central Valentine’s Day Love Tour

HopeCentralValentinesTour

Hope-Central, the performing arts epicenter for students, has gathered students from the Lansing area to serenade senior citizens on Valentine’s Day for the Hope-Central Love Tour.

Students will be touring senior facilities singing and handing out teddy bears and valentine’s cards to the residence in hope of making this Valentine’s Day a special one for them.

Tour locations:

Hope-Central is collecting medium to large size teddy bears at the following locations:

Please consider donating a teddy bear today to make a difference this Valentine’s Day!

Celebrities and Their Effect on Kids

Two well-known celebrities have gone public about their decision to remain sexually pure until marriage.

 

Bethany Hamilton, the subject of the movie Soul Surfer, says “Growing up I was blessed to have parents that stayed together, and to have that husband and wife image.  I wanted an awesome husband that would love and support me until I die.

 

Bethany says “I also wanted to honor God with the way that I approached [marriage]. I definitely was patient and I didn’t mess around.” In fact Bethany says her husband is the only guy I’ve ever kissed.”  By the way, Bethany has a new book out that talks about some of those issues.  It’s called Body & Soul: A Girl’s Guide to a Fit, Fun and Fabulous Life: 

And a well-known male TV star is talking  about his decision to remain abstinent until marriage. 

 

Duck Dynasty’s Jase Robertson says  “I’m proud [that I was a virgin when I got married]. That was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my entire life.

 

In an interview with Fox News, Jase said “What I did was when I started dating girls I would quickly tell them on the first date as soon as they got in the car. I’d say, ‘Look I will not treat you inappropriately at any point in our relationship.’

 

According to Jase, when he said that, a couple of girls actually got out of the car! But he says, “My wife, [Missy], she really loved the idea that she felt secure with me, like I had a direction I was taking.”

 

By the way, if you’re a parent with teens or pre-teens at home, an excellent book on this topic is called “Pure Excitement: A Godly Look at Sex, Love and Dating.”

 

If you have younger kids, I’d recommend the series “God’s Design for Sex” by Stan and Brenna Jones.  That series features a different booklet for each stage of development, starting with 0-3 year-olds and going all the way up to the teen years.

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Are Kids With ADHD More Likely to Use Drugs?

If your kid has ADHD, is he more likely to use drugs as a teen or young adult?  Yes—and no.

CBS News is reporting on a new study conducted by Boston Children’s Hospital that found that children suffering with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder are more than twice as likely to try and abuse drugs

However, if kids are treated properly—including with prescription medications, they may actually be LESS likely to use drugs when they get older.

Dr. Sharon Levy at Boston’s Children’s says “one of the main points [of the research] is that treating ADHD both with behavioral techniques and medications seems to lower the risk of substance abuse,”

Dr. Levy did caution that stimulant medications such as Adderall and Ritalin can sometimes be misused. The researchers found that almost 1 out of 4 school-aged children are approached to sell, buy or trade their ADHD medications

Dr. Michael Duchowny at Miami Children’s Hospital recommends that children with ADHD should be counseled about the risk of substance abuse.

Although the association between ADHD and the risk of substance abuse is known, the reasons for the increased risk aren’t,

It’s possible that the same biology that causes ADHD also puts some children at a higher risk for substance abuse, he added. Other social factors may also contribute to increased risk.

For example, kids with ADHD are more likely to struggle in school and turn to drugs or alcohol to escape anxiety about their difficulties.

For more information on ADHD, its diagnosis, and proper treatment, go to chadd.org.

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Emotional Son

Dear Dr. Bill,

 

We have a very emotional 8-year-old boy.  He often cries about little things and gets upset at my husband and me constantly.  He has a 2-year-old sister, and I wonder if their age gap has caused some kind of strain for him.  What do you suggest?

 

–Joy

 

Dear Joy,

 

Every child is wired differently from the start—each with his own unique personality and disposition.  Some are more laid-back, some are more high-strung.

As parents, one of our jobs is to help our kids capitalize on their strengths and overcome their weaknesses.

 

Without directly observing your family, I can only speculate about what’s going on, but could it be that you and your husband are unintentionally reinforcing your son when he cries and throws tantrums?

 

Many parents believe the most loving thing to do is give in to their child’s demands and emotional outbursts—they want their child to like them and they don’t want to do anything to cause them to be unhappy.

 

Unfortunately this sets up a negative pattern that will cause a child to struggle in his relationships with classmates and teachers—and later with dating partners and employers.

 

It sounds like things have gotten worse since your daughter was born.  My guess is that your son has been used to getting his way and being the center of attention for years, and he doesn’t like sharing mom and dad with this little “intruder.”

 

If this description rings true, you and your husband will need to start setting firm limits with your son and implementing consequences for negative behavior.  You’ll also need to teach him more appropriate ways of responding when he is upset, frustrated or angry.

 

For some great guidance on this, check out the book “Boundaries with Kids” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Help—My 6-Year-Old is a Habitual Liar—What Can I Do?

Dear Dr. Bill,

 

Ever since my second daughter could walk and talk, she has been sneaky and a little deceitful.  She’s now almost 6-years-old and is very smart and sweet, but her tendency to lie continues to baffle me. I’ve tried reading children’s books to her about telling the truth, and reviewing Bible verses that back up what I’ve been teaching her — but the problem persists. What should I do?

 

–Nicole

 

Dear Nicole,

 

Young children tend to respond more effectively to actions, rather than words. Although explaining the importance of truth and sharing Bible verses with your daughter are important, you’ll find that firm, decisive actions are the best teacher.

 

My guess is she has found that lying works for her—at least some of the time. She’s learned that telling a fib helps her to avoid or at least delay punishment. So you need to make the consequences for lying more severe than for other types of misbehavior.

 

For example, if she deliberately breaks one of her sister’s toys, she will receive a consequence, but if she LIES about it, her punishment will be considerably more painful.

 

Clearly explain this to her, so she knows in advance that she’s much better off telling the truth and admitting to an infraction, even if she does experience a negative consequence for her misbehavior.

 

In addition to consistent, powerful consequences for lying, you should also begin praising her when she tells the truth.

 

Many parents find it helpful to use a sticker chart or token system to reinforce positive behavior and discourage negative behavior.

 

You can learn how to set up such a system in Dr. James Dobson’s book “The New Dare to Discipline.”

 

Thanks for writing Nicole!

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Could Your Kid Be Packing Pounds This Summer?

Could your kid be packing on the pounds this summer?

 

As you probably know, school districts across the country have been banning sugary drinks and fatty lunch foods in order to help curb childhood obesity.

 

But a new study suggests that SUMMER is the time when kids are more likely to gain weight.

 

NBC News is reporting on researcher done by the Harvard School of Public Health. It showed that many kids gain weight during the summer, particularly black and Hispanic kids and children and teens who are already overweight.

 

Rebecca Franckle, a Harvard doctoral student who led the study, says “It’s especially those kids who are already at risk who are the most at risk during the summer.”

 

About a third of children and teens in the U.S. are either overweight or obese, and piling on extra weight at a young age can lead to serious health problems later in life.

 

The researchers aren’t certain what is behind the summer weight gain, but they suspect that it’s less structure, extra snacks, boredom and more time spent in front of a screen.

 

More research is needed to determine the best ways to curb weight gain over the summer, but Rebecca Franckle at Harvard suggests that parents worried about extra pounds should look to the school year for suggestions.

 

She says engaging kids in sports or camp programs is a good idea. She and her colleagues also believe that expanding access to summer food programs for low-income children may help.

 

For more suggestions on keeping your kids healthy this summer—and all year long–go to healthychildren.org.

 

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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Could Divorce be Contributing to Childhood Obesity?

Kids face a variety of challenges when their parents divorce, and one those challenges could be gaining WEIGHT.

HealthDay is reporting on new research done in Norway that found that boys are especially prone to excess weight following a divorce.

In a study of 3,000 third-graders, doctors found that boys whose parents had divorced were 63% more likely to be overweight or obese, compared to boys whose parents stayed married.

Lead researcher Dr. Anna Biehl says “Knowing which factors are associated with childhood overweight and obesity is crucial, and is the first step toward being able to prevent it.”

Dr. Biehl and her team caution that they simply found an association between divorce and weight gain, but they can’t say divorce is the cause. They also didn’t account for how long parents had been divorced or lifestyle factors such as diet and exercise.

There are a variety of reasons why kids from divorced families might gain weight, including less supervision at home and family stress

Sara Rivero Conil, a child psychologist at Miami Children’s Hospital points out that divorced families sometimes turn to unhealthy coping behaviors, including emotional eating and decreased activity.

Also, single parents might feel too pressed for time to cook nutritious meals.  Dr. Conil says “Some may resort to unhealthy foods because they are quicker to prepare.  Or a parent who has the kids on a weekend may want to indulge them.”

She encourages parents to keep to a normal routine after a divorce and to maintain a healthy environment, including diet and exercise.

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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