You every feel like you are breaking a promise to your spouse when you didn’t even know you made a promise? Now come on! You said we were going to have date night tonight and it’s not going to work out and sometimes I think that’s a promise. Well, you say, “Hey, how about catching a movie sometime?” and yeah, you might read that as, “Hey, you promised to take me to the movies.” Exactly! That never entered my mind. It was just a suggestion for you, but I took it to be gospel truth. So you say, “Promise breaker!” Exactly, and I’m crushed fallen. Friend, think about this your own relationship. If you encounter some disappointment about a set up that you didn’t know existed, empathized with your spouse to see why would have read something into a message that wasn’t there.
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