One of the most important relationship principles that anyone can master says, “Who you are is not necessarily what you do.” Boy is that important. Especially when it comes to the words we speak to our spouse in marriage and the kind of feedback we give. Well, I think it is important to separate the person from the behavior, right? Yeah, if I say, “You’re so irresponsible!” that is one kind of message. If I say, “You know what, I noticed you forgot the trash again this week.” Or when someone turns the radio station, you say, “Who made your king of the radio?!” Right? Yeah, instead of just, “Hey, I’m over here. Did you notice me? I’m in the car too.” Friend, think about this in your own relationship. Make sure you separate the person from the behavior.


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