A Mom Worries That She May Not Have Her Priorities Straight

Dear Dr. Bill,

It seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day to do all that needs to be done and still spend quality time with my kids.  But I’m afraid that one day I’ll regret my day-to-day decisions, in favor of a clean house.  How can I change?


Dear Sharon,

A few years ago, family experts were preaching that what’s important is “quality time” not “quantity time.”  More recent research shows that kids need both quality AND quantity time with their parents.

In fact, the more involved parents are with their children, the less likely they are to have social, emotional, or academic problems, use drugs or alcohol, be involved in crime, or have premarital sex.

Based on your question, you may need to examine your priorities.  A spotless home isn’t nearly as important as a close relationship with your children.

One of the easiest ways to make more time for your kids is TURN OFF THE TV.  In the average American home, the television is on 49 hours per week.  Instead of watching TV with your kids, read to them, play board games together, take a walk to a local park, or just talk to them.

It’s also important not to get your kids overly involved in activities outside the home.  Some parents feel pressure to enroll their kids in numerous sports teams, music and dance lessons, and church activity.

Kids don’t need a dozen different weekly activities.  They need quality and quantity time with involved, committed parents.

Thanks for writing Sharon.  If you have a question for me about family issues or Christian living, click the “Questions” link on the Family Expert page.

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